《我的人生我做主:我来当坏人》

October 14th, 2007 by jamie0404

《我的人生我做主:我来当坏人》-林少波著

两对夫妻是邻居,张姓夫妇恩爱有佳,相敬如宾,很少吵架,即时有时红了脸,也很快和好如初,让人羡慕不已。另一对李姓夫妻经常吵架,日子看见就要过不下去了。

一日,李姓丈夫到张姓家里对男主人抱怨:“我真羡慕你们夫妻俩,你的妻子一定很贤慧,不像我的太太那么不讲理。这么多年,邻居们都很少看到你们打架,吵嘴,不知你们有何秘诀?”

张姓男主人说:“也没有什么,我们只是争着做坏人。”

“做坏人?”李姓丈夫不解其中的含义,迷惑的问张姓男主人。

张姓男主人于是就解释:“就是多担待,多宽容,常常检讨自己,把自己当成是问题根源,就是说自己是坏人的意思,这样丈夫俩就会避免很多不必要的争吵。不信的话,你今天回家也争着做坏人,试试看会有什么效果吧!”

李姓丈夫回到家,妻子正等着他吃晚餐,不耐烦地说:“下了班还不回家,你是跑去那里逍遥?”

李姓丈夫一听很生气,但又想起张姓丈夫的话,于是改以和悦的语气说:“是啊!今天下班回家晚了,因为我到隔壁去找张先生聊天,真是抱歉!我真应该先回来跟你打声招呼。”

妻子对丈夫的和气感到意外,丈夫于是把到隔壁家取经的事向妻子说明。从此,这对夫妻也开始争着做“坏人”。

为了爱,彼此多担待。用欣赏的眼光去看待对方,理解对方,这样才能包容,也只有宽容才能理解彼此,这样爱情或婚姻才能美好而长久。

多担待的婚姻才能维持长久,而能够让爱情持久的东西,绝不是美貌或浪漫,而是互相的敬畏,尊重,理解和包容。

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空虚 . 寂寞

September 27th, 2007 by jamie0404

专家说,今天是月亮在空中最亮,最圆的一天

可是我的心是空的

空虚原来就是这种感觉

寂寞呢?

又是怎样的?

一个人再怎么坚强

遇到最痛,最伤的事情时

还是会脆弱的

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我很爱的人离开我

我没跟他说再见

因为来不及

那时在他陪我们最后三天的时候

我没哭

而且还能带着笑容,笑声面对亲友

我问了我的好友

我这样的态度是不是错的?

有没有问题?

她说:没有错,自要对得起自己,是没错的。

在他出殡那天

我崩溃了

哭得一发不可收拾

到现在 

我还是很想他

很想很想

现在才真正的发现

原来我的毕业照里会少一个人

就是他

Family

在佛教里的人生观!

June 10th, 2007 by jamie0404

今天我在做工的地方读了一本小书《慧海法雨》,是慧海法师写的。里面有好几则我觉得很有道理,跟大家分享吧,搞不好你们也会领悟到不一样的东西.

(三世因缘)

今天是

明天的昨天

(生命之美)

正因为有挫折的失望,

我们才知道成功的喜悦;

正因为有缺陷的遗憾,

我们才有提升的机会。

(别错过)

错得最严重的是 

以为自己不会犯错

承认自己会犯错的人 

便因此少犯一个过错

(什么最长)

疲倦的人感路长

难眠的人叹夜长

重病的人嫌命长

不悟的人轮回长

(说来惭愧)

太多巧合便不成巧合,

太多借口便不像借口。

(敢问   路在何方)

不经一番风雨,哪能见彩虹;

不敢尝试失败,那会珍惜成功;

路在何方?

路在脚下。

(造桥)

努力工作就是将“想要”跟“得到”做个连接起来。

(知识份子)

所谓专家就是:

当其他人一无所知,

而他却一知半解。

(白走一趟)

有人莫名其妙的投胎,

然后乱七八糟过日子,

最后糊里糊涂地死掉去。

(不倒翁)

倒地不起叫失败,

自己爬起叫成功,

起起跌跌叫经验,

起来再走叫智慧。

(里外不是人)

棺材里面的,生命正告一段落;

棺材外面的,评语正刚刚开始。

(放眼世界)

一双眼睛,用来看事实;

一对眼皮,决定看与不看。

(轮回)

即使今天有多么不快乐,

今天

即将成为昨天了。

WoRKin Dayz…

June 3rd, 2007 by jamie0404

Erm… how can i discribe myself now?

i guess d color "BLUE" will match juz fine…

it’s been 2 weeks i worked at d new place, although i juz work for 5 hours a week (juz part time to earn xtra $), but it’s so tiring… N my time turn upside down again juzt like final exam.. sleep at 5am… up at 1pm..

waitress = walk… smile… talk… walk… smile… talk… walk… smile… talk…

tat’s d routine…. boring… but d thing is.. i meet a lot of people.. from all walks of life.. stingty type… generous type… talkative type..

but…. i don’t HATE this job… it’s fun actually.. i’m becoming professional waitress.. haha..

just 13 days of working days to go..

SMILE TOWARDS D FUTURE!!

熬夜

May 5th, 2007 by jamie0404

已经连续很多天凌晨四点睡了

我想那就是考试的生活吧

不过这次的考试已经很轻松了

比起上几次的考试

这次简直就是度蜜月了吧

“熬夜”这首歌

很久很久没听到了

想想上次听

应该就是中五考SPM的时候了吧

那时有一群很好很好的朋友一起讨论这首歌

谁唱的?什么歌名?

988 MY FM点唱

听着听着

不知觉眼泪也跟着掉下来了

怀念?想念?

中五的考试跟现在大学比

不算什么嘛

那时最迟也只能顶到凌晨三点

现在

不睡觉早上八点继续去考试都行

为了赶功课整天没睡

也都习惯了吧

可能人长大了

忍耐力也跟着成长

很多事情再要忍一忍

就没事了

就是成长过程的其中一课

今天的我~!

April 20th, 2007 by jamie0404

刚看完戏就说进房间享受一下一个人听着音乐,吹着冷气的感觉。

其实我一个人可以享受整建4房间的时候,我喜欢开冷气,点香薰,再听988<月色最美>单元,我觉得那就是我的私人空间.

无聊着的时候,很巧和的在我书橱前发呆,却看见了那些怀念的毕业刊和纪念册.

我的纪念册并不多,就只有两本,一本是小学的,另一本就是中学的.

翻开毕业刊,原来已经有这么多人在我的人生中经过.如果我没重看那些毕业刊,我看我也忘了吧!

虽然有些人并不认识,但他们的脸孔,却留在我记忆里.

很遗憾的是我竟然会想到 "咦,原来她是跟我同班的啊!"

我是一个不善于交际的人,很多旧同学聚会我都不出席.老实说,我也不知道为什么.

再翻开纪念册,哇…好怀念哦!

那些珍贵的记忆一拥而来.

如: 在医院玩笔仙,比赛输了,比赛赢了,失望了,旅行了,哭了,笑了。。。等等! 好多好多!

那些日子已经过了吧!

我们的泪都曾经容在一起。

每次都很想说:“你们还记得。。。。。吗?”

讲真的,你们还记得那些我们一起经过的日子吗?

很怀念,很怀念!

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20/04/2007

3.05 am

Tiring day`1

April 13th, 2007 by jamie0404

Ah……………

it’s been a tiring day for me past few days.

well.. i slept 15 hours last nite.. (cause i din sleep d day earlier)… so i kinda sleep my day off.. haha!!!

slept  at 9pm d nite earlier.. (my personal record actually, din really slept so early b4).. then woke up at 12pm d otherday.. which means yesterday…. haha… see? i did slept for 15 hours…

now (14/4/2007, 4.24am).. i’m at my fren’s place… still doing assignment tat we hav 2 pass up on sunday…. but my group mate’s d one doing more…. haha….

by d way… i’m just boring…… sleepy n boring…..

tata~~~~~!!!! happy sleep n good nite~!

thank the feminist out there!!!

April 13th, 2007 by jamie0404

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I’ve read an interesting topic written by Marina Mahathir in today’s news paper. <Thank The Feminist Out There>

Marina Mahathir is a feminist that I’ve admire for a long time, not because she’s the daughter of our former Prime Minister, but she’s a women that played an important role in a woman’s life. She doesn’t involve in politics, but she took part in other organization like AIDS/HIV campaign, Women Rights… etc. For me, she’s a brave woman that influences a lot of people from the things she wrote on news papers.

This is something I read in “Thank the feminist out there”: (she received an email containing these)

*      If you are a woman voter, thank a feminist.

*      If your doctor is a woman, thank a feminist.

*      If you open a help wanted section of any US paper and see a job listings classified by occupation rather than “help wanted-male” and “help wanted-female”, thank a feminist.

*      If your depression is taken seriously rather than considered a by-product of having a uterus, thank a feminist.

*      If you can have a birth control prescribed to you without first obtaining your husband’s written permission, thank a feminist.

*      If you’re allowed to teach school regardless of your marital status, and you’re a woman, thank a feminist.

*      If you’re told you can become something rather than a nurse, a grade-school teacher, a housewife and mothers, or a nun, thank a feminist.

*      If you expect to be considered for admission to university programmes based on your qualification rather than your gender, thank a feminist.

*      If you expect your qualifications for admission to educational programmes to be considered equally, rather than after every male application has been admitted, thank a feminist.

*      If you’ve heard of the crime domestic violence, and know that it’s illegal, thank a feminist.

*      If you can drive, thank a feminist.

*      If you expected to be paid the same wages as a man doing the same job you are, with the same seniority and the same qualifications, thank a feminist.

*      If you are considered a person in your own right rather than the chattel of a man, thank a feminist.’

*      If you are legally permitted to own property in your own name, thank a feminist.

*      If you don’t expect to be fired because a man “needs your job to feed his family,” thank a feminist.

*      If the phrase “non-traditional occupation” seems a little old-fashioned or, better yet, you don’t understand it at all, thank a feminist.

*      If you hear term like “firefighter”, “police officer” or “postal walker” in everyday life, thank a feminist.

*      If the phrase “she’s a woman lawyer” seems odd, thank a feminist.

*      If you aren’t expected to leave the room at a party when the conversation turns to current events and politics, thank a feminist.

*      If you’re a grown woman and don’t expected to be called “girl” when you are 50, thank a feminist.

In her article also stated that there are things here in Malaysia that we can thank feminists for:

*      The amendment to the Federal Constitutional in 2004 which prohibits discrimination on the basis of sex.

*      The Domestic Violence Act 1994.

*      Proposal for laws against sexual harassment.

*      Longer maternity leave.

*      Work place child care.

But, there are also things that made feminist felt discriminated, whom do we have to thank when:

*      When female flight attendants are grounded after three children while their male colleagues can keep flying even if they have 10 children?

*      When our national airline did refuses to recruit and train female pilots even though there are already women fighter pilots in our air force?

*      When ministers insult bloggers by calling them unemployed women, liars and cheats?

*      When male judges allow women to lose their children by refusing to make just decisions just because it involves religion?

*      When women are blamed for “allowing” themselves to be raped even if they are 73 and doing nothing more provocative than washing dishes in their own home?

*      When career women are constantly reminded not to neglect their families while men who neglect theirs are never chided?

*      When the fact that there are more female students in universities is considered a problem that has to be corrected by preferential admissions for male?

*      When laws that protect the rights of Muslim women are overturned because God allegedly prefers it that way?

*      When women’s faith and morals are judges solely by the way they dress while men’s aren’t?

*      When unmarried women are deemed unqualified to speak for abused married women whereas it’s OK for men to speak on behalf of women?

*      When, despite the overwhelming number of cases of violence against women, men, and even some women, insist on focusing on the rare cases of women committing violence against men?

*      When women have absolute no chance of becoming Prime Minister in this country?

*      When “feminist” is considered a derogatory term, even by women, while “male chauvinist” is worn as a badge of honor by some men?

I do agree what she had stated in her article. In this 20th century time, man and woman still have their separation; women are judged because of the term of “woman”. But recently, Hilary Clinton ran for the presidential election, well, on my point of view, she’s the hope for woman. She’s a lady full of confident. I do support her to be the first Woman President of United States. Maybe after that other countries might have more female leader.

天长地久

March 13th, 2007 by jamie0404

我在一本书看到

在对的时间  遇见对的人  是一种幸福

在对的时间  遇见错的人  是一场心伤

在错的时间  遇见错的人  是一段荒唐

在错的时间  遇见对的人  是一阵叹息

也忘了是什么书啦

我很赞同上面说法

一个人的人生中

必定经过很多过程吧

遇到的人也多的是

这样才是充实人生吧

很幸运

在我人生经过而逗留的人

19岁时已经遇到了

那应该就是在对的时间 遇见对的人

还真的是很幸福啦

不过他虽然逗留了

会不会永远停留  我就不知道了

除了命运和缘分

有谁会知道这答案呢

以前有一个跟幼稚的想法

只在乎曾经拥有  不在乎天长地久

现在想回

在拍戏吗  哈哈

武侠片才会有这样的台词吧

原来天长地久这四个字

并不是开玩笑的

它的意义大得让人觉得肩膀很重

一个很大的包袱

不过现在的我

还是觉得只要现在幸福开心就好

管它明天会怎样呢

偶像剧

March 13th, 2007 by jamie0404

看偶像剧真的有一丝丝甜甜的感觉

特别是台湾偶像剧

他们的爱情故事真的是很令人羡慕

他们对彼此的爱情都很强

真的很让怀疑

世上会有这样的爱情故事吗?

我看偶像剧的主要目的就是让人产生幻想吧

幻想跟俊男美女在一起的感觉会是多么的梦幻

幻想争风吃醋的场面是如何的

幻想不属于现实的自己

我看应该就是因为这样才会让人想看偶像剧吧

最近看了  《花样少年少女 》

里头的主角还都是俊男

不过重点不是那些俊男

而是他们之间的关系很奥妙

瑞希  她很勇敢的争取她自己的恋爱

她真的为了泉付出很多

现实不可能发生的付出吧

里头有一句  是泉对瑞希说的

你就是你 还能变到哪里去啊

真的是这样吗

现在的恋爱  还会像戏里面则可样

不管如何  都不会离开对方

TO BETTER OF WORSE

TILL DEATH

DO US APART

Is it really like that n the real world?